Have you seen all the viral videos about great Dad’s going around on the Internet?
They get praise for doing their daughter’s hair, making cupcakes, and doing traditional things mother’s do “all the time.”
And this has created a WAR around who is doing what – and who should be doing more.
What could be seen as a gender issue, to me, is actually a relationship issue.
In an intimate partnership, there is an equality battle. A war over chores, money, and responsibilities.
And it’s time to stop the war within your relationship.
My philosophy professor Tom Humphries once shared the key to his 40+ year marriage with our class.
They didn’t fight over who was doing what in the house, or within their family. Instead, they looked at their responsibilities as a team and said ‘what is best for us’?
When was the last time you sat down with your partner and outlined your strengths and weaknesses?
It’s time to sit down and do it differently.
Your partner is the closest person to you.
Why would you fight and build resentment against the person you love the most?
If you’ve been fighting, your first step is to say you’re sorry. And tell them you want to do it with them, together.
Sit down and openly discuss what you are good at doing and taking responsibility for in the partnership and what you are willing to do. And allow them to share as well.
Let’s celebrate Father’s Day this upcoming weekend, and bring peace into your relationships.
Practice being a team together, and let me know in the comments below how it goes!